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5 Things Mentally Strong People Never Do

Mental strength goes by a lot of different names: determination, tenacity, even confidence. But true toughness goes beyond all these terms. It's a quality of believing in yourself and your goals that can't be undone by obstacles (or obstructive people).

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Amy Morin at Lifehack recently compiled a list of 13 things mentally strong people don't do, including:

1. Give up, even after failure.

What's the difference between Sir Richard Branson and your co-worker with the get-rich-quick scheme? Well, a lot of things. But first and foremost, Sir Richard didn't give up, even after he failed. In fact, the most successful business people are often the ones who've failed the most, but refused to let it shake their confidence.

2. Feel sorry for themselves.

Sure, sulking can feel restorative after a failure, but if you let it go on too long, you run the risk of compromising future successes.

3. Give away their power.

"Mentally strong people avoid giving others the power to make them feel inferior or bad," writes Cheryl Connor at Forbes. "They understand they are in control of their actions and emotions. They know their strength is in their ability to manage the way they respond."

In other words, as Eleanor Roosevelt once said, they understand that no one can make them feel inferior without their consent.

4. Avoid change.

Life is change, and mentally strong people know that. They embrace change's possibilities, rather than fearing its potential.

5. Try to please people.

Most of us like to be liked, but if courting the good opinion of others becomes too much of a priority, we run the risk of suppressing our own ideas -- or objections to the ideas of others -- because we're afraid of disapproval.

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6 Comments

  1. 6 Ron Anon 10 Dec

    6. Read articles to see if they are mentally strong or not.

  2. 5 Bbee 08 Dec

    This was so superficial it serves as misleading. We do not need to "give up" but we do need to re-evaluate our plans and positions so we can actually learn from our failures. We do not need to sulk endlessly, but we do need to honor and use our feelings in an intelligent manner (not avoid or deny them) because they are instructive if we know how to interpret emotions in a productive manner (with emotional intelligence). There is a balance between "pleasing people" and self-absorption that is tricky to find; our current young adult culture is swaying toward too much self-absorption and taking longer to mature so this balance is more difficult to develop. We all need to learn to deal flexibly with others. Your article seems to equate "mentally strong" with a lack of emotional intelligence. Re-read "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" by Steven Covey.  Try again.

  3. 4 AMIT 07 Dec

    They never try to please is wrong..

    When steve jobs came back to apple he had to please Bill gates and he had to compromise and partner with Microsoft..no matter how strong ur if u want more strength at times u have to give away your ego and pride and join hands with people whom u may hate to work

    Give away power is also wrong- Remember steve jobs was forced to quit his own company..

  4. 3 Ali 07 Dec

    Why do I always see people comment on payscale calling EVERY damn article rubbish? If you find these articles so bad why the hell are you still subscribed?? If I disagree with an article on pay scale I either ignore that article or I simply provide concise, opposing points with facts. Calling an article rubbish is ignorant. If you disagree, say it nicely. The world doesnt owe you anything. Stop acting like it does. Better yet, unsubscribe.

  5. 2 FAKE SMILE 07 Dec
    These are all traits of an Entrepreneur / Businessman. Not the things of mentally strong.
  6. 1 john 07 Dec

    Most of what is said here is rubbish about mental strength. Giving away power being key. For instance your employer can put you on a "knowledge Transfer" project. Whereby you are forced to document and proceduralize for others "Trainees,interns " etc...

    If you refuse avoid or do not divulge the relavant knowledge than you can be disciplined. Isolated from meetings. Passed over.. etc -

    Richard Branson may have failed when he was young but he got lucky.. Mike Oldfield "Tubular Bells" was the big break.  Like everything in life success is a lottery .. Nelson Mandela could have been hanged back in the sixties for his involvement in terrorism. But at his trail he read a speech which the judge was sympathetic to. Plenty of judges would have just seen him in terms of the law and had him hanged.. He got lucky..

    You can of course make your own luck.. Putting yourself about here there and everywhere. But the world is littered with people where the luck hasn't come their way.

    Strong character is good .. but at the end of the day you are playing the lottery of life like all others :)

     Most of what is said here is rubbish about mental strength. Giving away power being key. For instance your employer can put you on a "knowledge Transfer" project. Whereby you are forced to document and proceduralize for others "Trainees,interns " etc...If you refuse avoid or do not divulge the relavant knowledge than you can be disciplined. Isolated from meetings. Passed over.. etc - Richard Branson may have failed when he was young but he got lucky.. Mike Oldfield "Tubular Bells" was the big break.  Like everything in life success is a lottery .. Nelson Mandela could have been hanged back in the sixties for his involvement in terrorism. But at his trail he read a speech which the judge was sympathetic to. Plenty of judges would have just seen him in terms of the law and had him hanged.. He got lucky..You can of course make your own luck.. Putting yourself about here there and everywhere. But the world is littered with people where the luck hasn't come their way. Strong character is good .. but at the end of the day you are playing the lottery of life like all others :)

     

     

     

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