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1. Recognize that you're going to feel bad for a bit.
What's worse than giving up and hiding under the covers with a bag of M&Ms? Trying to convince yourself that you're not going to grieve. It won't work, and you'll feel worse than you would have if you hadn't tried to suppress a completely natural reaction.
2. Don't beat yourself up.
"[W]hile you may think you were turned down because your resume wasn't quite impressive enough, in reality the company could have made an internal hire or discontinued the job listing altogether," writes Melody Wilding at The Daily Muse. "Even if you know you were turned away because you weren't the best fit for the role, be careful not to overgeneralize the situation -- accusing yourself of being incapable of ever getting a job."
Wilding suggests reframing the narrative in a more positive way. For example, if you didn't get the job, and wish that you'd done something differently during the interview, tell yourself that you've learned something for next time. (While understanding that there's every chance that their decision not to hire you probably had nothing to do with missed opportunities on your part.)
3. Follow up with the employer.
Once you've calmed down, consider dropping a line to the hiring manager to thank her for the opportunity to interview, and to wish the team the best of luck.
It's fine to ask the company to keep you in mind for other positions, but career experts advise you never to use the thank-you letter as an opportunity to ask what you did wrong.
"Never ask why you didn't get the job. It could put the hirer on the defensive and make them feel uncomfortable, pretty much ensuring that they won't contact you about other possibilities," executive coach Ronald Kaufman tells Forbes.
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