Company Size: 20000-49999 (United States)

Being in a Security/Admin job, there is a pain point of being on-call often.

Be proactive to find the cause of the any pages that occur and try to find out a solution (automation/pre-plan) for that issue the next time it occurs so that the page does not need to occur. This way, the frequency in pages will go down and you will have the time to re-think if On-Call is needed as often. You might well opt for only serious EMERCENCY cases and have a program/plan for managing that process.

It's natural to initially focus on getting the most compensation for the job & position you fill in a company. When the urge to settle down and start a family creeps in, it changes your perspective about the other values to a job. Time spent with your spouse and the rest of your family does matter because that is just as important an aspect of who you are as the job you do. Having the ability to take time off when you need it without being made to feel you are stealing from the company is a huge benefit.

My company understands this and respects the time off people take to address personal issues. Of course, your employer will be more receptive to treating you as a respectable mature individual if you are one.

Prioritize your time accordingly. I have: (1) God, (2) Family, (3) Work, as mine. As long as I keep these in balance, in that order, things go much smoother.