When married couples cannot even take their honeymoon together because they are unable to coordinate time off from work, something needs to change. This rather disturbing new trend is called a “uni-moon,” and it is not helpful to work-life balance.
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Melissa and Bill Powers were unable to sync their schedules after getting married, so they opted to take separate vacations to celebrate their nuptials, according to The Huffington Post.
“A uni-moon is one of those terrible modern trends of taking individual honeymoons attached to work trips,” said Powers, in an interview with HuffPost Live‘s Nancy Redd. “So she took hers in the Dominican Republic, and I took mine in Paris because we couldn’t coordinate our honeymoons together because of over-scheduling.”
If we can not take time to spend important moments with our dearly loved ones, what is the point of getting up to go to work every day?
Work-life balance is not so easily defined. It’s rarely 50/50, or as simple as X hours of work for Y hours of leisure. It may also mean different things for different people. The key to achieving work-life balance is to have a healthy ratio of achievement and enjoyment.
Achievement applies to the “work” part of work-life balance. The need for achievement answers questions about why you need to work, or why you may need a bigger salary. You need a bigger salary to afford a larger apartment so you can have children, for example.
Enjoyment encompasses more than simply having leisure time, as important as that is. Enjoyment is also the pride we may feel after an accomplishment, as well as the joy we feel in life and the love we share with others.
In order to have both achievement and enjoyment, we must have personal boundaries. This means knowing when to say “no,” and knowing how to say “no” in an appropriate fashion. Many people would feel that it was time to draw the line when they discovered that they were unable to take a honeymoon together with their new spouse. Sometimes, you need to tell work, “No. We need a few days off together.”
Bill and Melissa did decide to change a few things in their lives in order to enjoy more and feel balanced. They chose to downsize so they did not need to make as much money; they got rid of some belongings and moved into a smaller apartment. Working some hours from home also improved the enjoyment in their lives, and they report that the quality of their lives improved when they were able to spend more time together.
Know your boundaries, and be willing to make changes in your life if you do not experience the enjoyment that must come alongside achievement.
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